Tuesday, October 8, 2013

The Safety Kid

Marcus was chosen to be on the school's Safety Patrol.  He thinks it's the greatest thing ever and came down to breakfast the following morning sporting his cool safety belt.  When I was in grade school I wouldn't have been caught dead being on the Safety Patrol but I guess it's pretty cool at his school because a couple of his friends were crying when they didn't get picked.  Marcus's safety patrol assignment: walking kids to their bus lines.
While I'm on the subject of safety, let me give you a little insight into my kids' school.  All classroom doors are closed and locked the entire day of school.  If a student leaves the room the door automatically locks behind him and he has to knock and wait for someone to open the door to get back inside.  All the doors on the outside of the school are locked all day every day.  There is one door visitors are allowed to enter through that is also locked.  After buzzing the bell, looking at the security camera so an office lady can identify you as a parent (not some creep with a gun), you are buzzed in, where you have to walk through the office, sign in, and get a visitor's pass before entering the rest of the school.  Our school has regular lock-down drills where the kids have a designated hiding spot in case there's a shooter. 
In Ethan's words, "We hide behind this little wall thing so if someone comes into the room they can't see any of us and my teacher reads us stories until the coast is clear." 
How disturbing is that?!  It get worse.  The children also have assigned hiding places if they're in the library, gym, or music room.  It's a sad world we live in when things like this are so normal we can casually talk about shooters and hiding places like it's no big deal.
But the big deal to me, is the hoops I have to jump through to pick up my kids from school if I don't want them to ride home on the bus.  I have to go to the school, park my car, go into the lobby and wait in a long line of parents who are also waiting to pick up their children.  The line begins forming fifteen minutes before the bell rings so if you don't get their early you have about a long wait until you reach the front of the line where kids are released one at a time, to their parents, after their parents show some form of identification.  The entire process takes about forty minutes.  I learned this the hard way when I had Landon (shoeless because I had no idea I'd have to go into the school to pick up my kids) and Parker with me, and no ID because I didn't know I needed it.  When I finally made it to the front of the line I practically grabbed my kids and said, "I'm pretty sure my nine-year-old can positively identify me as his mother!" and stormed off.  Just thinking about it makes my blood boil.  Luckily I just discovered there is a way to beat the system.  You can park your car on the other side of the street and let your kids be "walkers".  Walkers get to leave the building and walk home without any parents or ID's involved.  But don't forget to send a note with your child, telling their teacher they have permission to be a "walker".  If not, your child sits in the office until one of the office ladies comes out to your car to get you, telling you your child cannot be released from the school without a signed note.  I'm not even kidding. 
Let me just say that this is the fourth elementary school Marcus has attended and we have never experienced such strict policies, all of which have been in place long before the shooting in CT.  How can I teach my kids to be responsible if they aren't even given the chance to walk out of school and climb into their parents' car?  I could go on and on about this.  Oh wait, I already have.  It sure feels good to get it off my chest though.  I'd be delighted to hear your thoughts on the subject and if you think this isn't extreme, I'm all ears.

4 comments:

  1. I was on safety patrol when I was little! Tell Marcus way to go!

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  2. I like the idea of all the locked doors. The rest is ridiculous. Liv and Gavin just had their first lock down drill of the year. I can't tell you how much it scared and creeped me out as I listened (and pictured the scenario) to each of them tell me about it. Gavin's spot is in a closet with a few other kids and the door closed. Liv goes in the back cubby area and crouches down, puts her backpack and jacket over her so it looks like nobody's there. Terrifying world we live in.

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  3. Wow, Mel. That is intense. I am living the complete, and I mean complete, opposite end of the spectrum. K-12 school. Probably 12 unlocked entrances. School doubles as a community center so anyone can come and go at any time. No note needed if a child is going to walk home or get picked up by someone else (they just tell their teacher). No one even walks the classes to the buses, they get there themselves. I wonder sometimes if our school wouldn't be the perfect place for a tragic event (I hate to say it) because the administration and teachers and parents are so oblivious. I'm the one who wants a little more security. Nothing like what you have to deal with. But I would think it would be important to have people check in at the elementary or high school office when they enter or something like that. As far as I know, my kids don't even know what a drill is unless it's fire or tornado. But I agree with you that kids need to learn different forms of independence and I would be utterly annoyed to have to go through all the red tape that you have to (especially that picking up from school thing - ridiculous)! It's interesting how schools in the same country can be so different. I'm guessing there aren't too many schools like ours. I hope it doesn't take something bad happening for them to tighten up a bit.

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  4. When we were in Boston Aspen (now 12, 13 in January) went to kindergarten for about 3 months. That was how her kindergarten was. I remember feeling the same frustration about picking her up. As I was reading your post though, when you remarked how much things have changed I considered a talk I had yet again with my older two girls this week. Ipods, Ipads, anything really handheld that can connect to the internet and how to enjoy them with friends and the dangers of them. Alora does gymnastics 30 hours a week. Everyday during the break some of the girls gather to watch things on you tube. And there is my oldest who goes to Young Women's once a week, and visits friends at their houses. At least once a week we have the talk about these blessing/curse devices. We talk about scenarios that could happen and things that have happened. Someone recently asked Alora if she wanted to see the new Miley Cyrus video, thankfully she hesitated because I had previously remarked that Miley was no longer the Disney Miley. She said she would have to catch it some other time. Our kids are going to be having a lot of different drills than we did when we grew up. I am humbled though that we get to be their mom's. The Lord has prepared us for this. I believe as we stay close to him and consistently seek his guidance we will be able to navigate all these drills successfully with our kids. I am sorry for your frustrations, my favorite part of you and what you share on your blog though is just how incredibly resourceful you are!!

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